And, even if this is framed as absolutely a one-time only exchange, Enthusiastic should be willing to have Reluctant's three-way first if Reluctant wants it that way. If Enthusiastic wants to make New Activity a recurring or regular event, then ease Reluctant into it. Ms Phile - That's why I set it it out the way I did. Teachers deserve better than being forced to live according to the most conservative moral standards under threat of termination: If your husband needed his threesome to stay together, what would you want to do? Would you just do it, or do it in exchange for the threesome you might enjoy, as you imply? Would this end a long marriage? Or would you want hubby to try to introduce you to threesomes in a way that you like, even though it involves some sacrifice on his part, so that you might feel better about indulging his kink?īack to the horrible employment laws in this country. And let's also be kind and assume that you are not expected to act against your orientation.
and you are the youngest man hubby has ever been attracted to so he's not into your idea. You are probably not into that idea, but maybe you could think of having a threesome with another handsome young bi or gay guy, although you're afraid it could go badly too. Now, he can't stop thinking of having a threesome with a woman. Say you had fallen in love with a gorgeous young bi guy, agreed to monogamy, and were married for 10 years. I wonder if you are able to empathize with the LW. Exploring other orientations may be more fraught then exploring other Venn - If it were just to be a one-and-done, instinct suggests that the reluctant partner be accommodating first, preventing the worst-case scenario that the reluctant partner genuinely realizes that threesomes are in the LMB camp even with the ideal third and pulls the plug without the enthusiastic partner being accommodated at all. Although it might not be just about a threesome, but having her join him in this threesome.Īnd I agree with WWE they should talk about any expectations that the other act gay. That might be even easier than finding a guy to join them. If she and her spouse don't want to be whores for each other, she can also ask him to outsource this to a couple of whores. Weird they haven't thought of taking turns. The suspicion that the enthusiastic partner is more likely to go into the first threesome thinking of doing a dine-and-dash does seem sound, but the likelihood of such perfidy can be minimized by tying future compliance to reciprocation.Īs the event did occur in Massachusetts, the question becomes much more interesting should it happen to be an MM Nice catch BDF, I completely missed the first sentence. If it were just to be a one-and-done, instinct suggests that the reluctant partner be accommodating first, preventing the worst-case scenario that the reluctant partner genuinely realizes that threesomes are in the LMB camp even with the ideal third and pulls the plug without the enthusiastic partner being accommodated at all. If it were something the enthusiastic partner at least were hopeful of repeating often, then I'd suggest that partner graciously yield to provide the other partner as comfortable an entry as possible. I think I'd want to establish whether the idea is to establish regular threesomes or if the idea is entirely a one-off (or two-off, in this case). It seems the sort of thing one might say off the top of one's head only to realize afterwards that the dynamics aren't really the same, although some threesomes which seem more like two sequential pairings might be adaptable in that way. I suppose the foursome idea was to circumvent one or the other getting the desired threesome and then canceling any further such adventures before the complementary engagement. She is not being pushy about inviting another guy like he is being pushy about inviting another woman, it sounds like she'd be happy with twosomes. Because I think it's more likely he'd dump her after he gets his instead of trading. If he can reassure her mixed feelings about threesomes, and can have a successful threesome with another guy, she should act in good faith and return the favor. Are either of them interested in a 4some? And what about her mixed feelings? My advice would be to take turns. I don't see much difference between firing someone for being black, for being gay (and sexual), or for being a sexual woman. I think it's mostly women who are fired from teaching because they have sex with other adults, but I'm sure that even straight men suffer from this precedent too.
Why do they always involve exposing a woman to his shit? No, your shit doesn't smell like roses, and the other guys laughing are insecure rejects too. It was heartwarming to hear a man speak out about this young misogynist practice of naming the most gross or painful ways to hurt a woman sexually.